One evening an old Cherokee Indian told his grandson about a battle that goes on inside people. He said, ‘My son, the battle is between two ‘wolves’ inside us all. One is Evil. It is anger, envy, jealousy, sorrow, regret, greed, arrogance, self-pity, guilt, resentment, inferiority, lies, false pride, superiority, and ego.
The other is Good. It is joy, peace, love, hope, serenity, humility, kindness, benevolence, empathy, generosity, truth, compassion and faith.’
The grandson thought about it for a minute and then asked his grandfather: ‘Which wolf wins?’
The old Cherokee simply replied, ‘The one you feed.’
A friend came to see me recently, and reminded me of this old proverb. She reminded me that I was feeding a wolf that really didn’t have my best interests at heart. Which of us isn’t feeding wolves inside us? How many times have you been torn between two feelings, and without realising it, fed the wolf that was going to be a negative influence on your life? All of us have two wolves inside us but without meaning to, we often feed the wrong wolf with the choices we make.
We all have choices – nobody is responsible for the decisions we make, or the feelings we have, but ourselves. Do you want to feed the Good wolf and have a positive life, or will you choose the Bad wolf and watch as you world turns in a negative direction?
The question is “Which wolf are you going to feed today?”
Sometimes, when we have two ‘parts’ in conflict with each other, it’s a job to know which way we should jump. Which would be best? What would the effects be on you, your family, your work colleagues or your life if you made this decision, or that choice? And once you’ve made that choice or decision, how are you going to go about making it work? Were you ever disappointed with a choice you made in the past? Could you have approached it differently? What would have helped you to make a better, more informed decision? Perhaps you knew there was a better way, but decided to go down the wrong path, regardless? How effective are you at making the right choices?
Thankfully, NLP is a fantastic tool, when used with a qualified therapist, to help you identify those conflicting parts, and decide which is the correct path to go down – for you. It can help you decide what steps to take, when to take them and what the consequences will be on all areas of your life, once you’ve made that decision, of which wolf to feed. It’s your life, and your choice.
At Purple Tree Therapies, I use NLP, combined with hypnotherapy and counselling techniques to help people decide which way they want to jump in a safe, confidential and non-judgemental environment. You can make an appointment to see me at my practice in Evesham, and have a free, initial 30 minute session to see if you’d like to work with me to help you move forward.
Let’s start helping you make decisions about which wolf you’d like to feed and which one you’d like to ignore, and move on.
Please accept this blog in the spirit in which it is offered. I am intending only to give you some light hearted food for thought here – not reams of indigestible facts that you can find elsewhere all over the internet. If any of the suggestions ring a bell for you – great. This is a simplified version to give you a taster, so if your problem is more serious, and you feel you need more in-depth professional help, please contact me. I can help you identify any underlying issues that may be holding you back, and allow you to kick-start the process of moving you forward again. And of course, if you feel the need to visit your GP please go straight away. NLP, hypnotherapy and counselling are not a substitute for professional medical advice, but a complementary therapy. Thank you for reading this, and I hope to meet you soon.